Abstract

Questions that arise in the doctor-patient relationship may be transforming. The discussion begins with a compelling example: When parents ask, “Doctor, if this were your child, what would you do?” it is always a “high-stakes” question. What the question means and how it is understood depends on how we understand, and how sensitive we are, to the context and the complexity of several different relationships, and what each uniquely asks or requires. Working from the parents’ question, “What would you do . . . ?” the present discussion will develop a broader understanding of questions within the doctor-patient relationship and the possibilities for finding meaning that they introduce. A clinical narrative is used to show that questions are most meaningful when they are understood in the context of a unique relationship--and a "potential space"--that is both interpersonal and ontological.