Abstract

When children gradually leave theirparental home and the educational task of theirparents is nearly finished, the relationshipbetween them changes. The nature of the closerelationship comes under pressure, and thequestion is whether what is awaited for willnot be hollow. To think about the character andorigin of this emptiness, leads to a reflectionof the essence of the educational relationshipitself. This article discusses the way in which``leaving home'' puts the relationship betweenand the identities of parent and child atstake. It furthermore describes the kind ofregret both partners experience, and arguesthat education is incomprehensible in the end.Coming to understand this has an important andpositive other side: it demands our attentionfor the unforeseen and explains through thisperhaps also partly its attractiveness